Do you Wonder if People Still Pen Pal or how to get Started?

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So you want to learn how to find a pen pal?

Let me start by saying I have been pen palling since 2010, and I am going to take you through the steps on how to get started. I started writing after I graduated high school if that tells you anything. Some people have the idea that pen palling is for kids in middle school, but I assure you, it is not!

There is a whole pen pal world out there from the ages 5+! Even elderly people pen pal! There are some people in their 40’s that have just started writing. You can write at any age. There is nothing stopping you! You can write to make a new friend, you can write to learn about different cultures, or you can even write just so each of you can swap gifts from each other’s country.

I am going to refer  you back to a link, on how pen palling has to do with traveling→Old post. You don’t have to read this, but it may give you a little insight.

How to find pen pals: There are all sorts of ways. You can create an ad on a pen pal website or you can join some Facebook groups. The Websites I have signed up on are and also There may be a lot of fishy ads on, but this is where I first started. penpals-1

To begin (and I assume it is similar on all websites) you create your account and then you create yourself a profile/ad if you choose to. This is so people who are interested in you can contact you. Now, you may have to create an account, but you don’t necessarily have to do your profile. But if you start reaching out to people, they may want to see that you are a real person. penpals-2

It is a fairly easy set up on any site. There are search bars to find what you are looking for in a pen pal or you can sit back and wait for someone to contact you. Unfortunately if you are a woman, you will probably be contacted by men. Even IF you state in your profile/ad you only want to be pen pals with women. (Just ignore people who do not listen to your requests)

But I have a way you can get around the creepers and I believe it is A LOT safer! Join an all female pen pal group on Facebook! This is the one I am in: Snail Mail Pen Pal Ladies Only. But if you want to write guys as well, because I am sure there are guys that want to genuinely write out there, there are pen pal groups on FB that allow both sexes!
Everything is pretty straightforward to begin the process! Keep in mind these are not the only pen pal websites out there, these are just the ones I have used to get started! If you have any questions feel free to contact me through my website or any of my social media sites! So what’s holding you back from making new friends across the world?? Let me know down below!

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15 thoughts on “Do you Wonder if People Still Pen Pal or how to get Started?

  1. I found my penpal friends through online communities on specific interests. After years of being in the same communities, there were people that I kept in touch with online, and eventually, we would exchange physical addresses to send each other postcards, traveling souvenirs, and care packages 🙂 Some of them I’ve met in real life already, but most of them are still just online/penpal friends. Mostly because we haven’t been able to travel far enough to visit each other! It isn’t the usual penpal procedure, because we were rather online friends first, but it has a bit of penpalling in it 😉

  2. It’s a lot different than it used to be. People became penpals through teachers in middle school or when they actually traveled. Now, people are going through the Internet, you chat either through email, a website, or even a social media before you swap addresses. I think it would be super fun to meet someone somewhere and then ask if they actually wanted to (snail mail) write.

    That’s awesome you have met some of them in real life. I have met two of mine, but they have come to my state, and I have let one of them stay at my house twice.

    I love having friends from all over!

  3. This looks super fun! I’ve kind of wanted to find a penpal recently after finding a bunch of old letters I shared with my old penpals, so this post came at a great time. :)) Thanks for sharing it!

  4. thank you very much for you good explanation and am happy. for many good years , i have looked for pen pals just to chat with them know about new culture, lifestyles but i have not got any , why

  5. Pen pals are so fun! They create an escape from reality because you can write to them about their life and who are they really going to tell?! Haha! I also love that you can teach someone else about your culture/country while learning about theirs too 🙂

    • It really is fun! I have learned I feel like I can even tell them things I can’t tell my best friends at time. A lot of the times they are less judgement and it’s just a different kind of relationship than your physically formed friendships. One of the reasons I wanted to start penpalling was so I could learn about other cultures. It’s a big world out there and there is so much to learn!

  6. I am a teacher in South Africa for 10-11 year olds and would love to get them connected with pen pals, this would encourage writing as well.

    • Yes! I think that would be a good idea! I think that is how people have their first penpal usually, through school, but none of my teachers ever did that! I think that it would be fun for your students!

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